Addressing a common, destructive pattern in marriages, this guide helps couples reduce the distance in their marriage, thereby reducing the emotional baggage projected onto the children. When a marriage drifts apart, spouses tend to drift toward their children, creating an emotional burden that causes children to act out. Making children the center of family lives seems child friendly but it creates demanding, entitled children and starves the marriage of intimacy. Instructing spouses on how to identify the ways they unknowingly distance from each other this book show how to prevent the slow drift toward divorce. Putting marriage first also reduces the temptation of parents to look to the children to fulfill their intimacy needs, freeing children to grow into their own identity and learn self-reliance as they pursue their own passions. This guide helps couples balance family relationships to recapture the joy of marriage and take pride in contented, self-reliant children.