To commit ourselves to the act of loving means that we are committing ourselves to a potentially risky situation in which our tender hearts might be hurt. And, of course, to commit to another person also brings with it another kind of risk: getting stuck in a relationship that we might later regret.
Getting to Commitment offers understanding, inspiration, and a concrete plan of action for any woman, man, or couple who is ready to tackle the eight most destructive demons that make people choose the wrong partners or run from loving relationships.

“There are questions, and then, there are real questions. Getting to Commitment asks real questions, about a very real issue most of us have faced or are facing—commitment or the lack thereof. Steven Carter and Julia Sokol have touched a nerve that is sure to leave a lasting impression on us all.”
-- Iyanla Vanzant, author of In the Meantime and One Day My Soul Just Opened Up

“Compassionate, and filled with common sense…Getting to Commitment offers real solutions. It is a valuable book which deserves to reach a broad audience.”
-- Susan Forward, Ph.D., author of Men Who Hate Women and the Women Who Love Them

“For many of us, the effects of reading Steven Carter’s Men who Can’t Love was Einsteinian. By naming the previously unnamed phenomenon Commitmentphobia, he and Julia Sokol redefined the equation of male/female relationships so that it finally made sense. Getting to Commitment shows us how to balance that equation and finally solve it.
-- Laura Zigman, author of Animal Husbandry